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This month, we’re exploring the theme of parent identity—because parenting isn't just a role you perform.
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Week 1
Focus: Parent Identity
How many times have you been on a website of a creator you like, or their Insta page, and seen, "Mom of So-and-so"? Every time I see that, it gives me the ICK.
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Obviously, I love parents. And it's fine that folks want to share their parenting status with the world. The part that gives me the ick is wrapping up one's entire identity in their child.
Parenting is obviously a massive part of who we are, and gives us unique insights into ourselves and the world. But when we place our identity on who our child is, that becomes dangerous territory (see also: "boy moms", "autism moms").
So this month, we are going to focus on your parent identity: who you are as a parent, and a whole person.
Weekly Challenge:

This week is about being curious - no judging! Think about the following:
- Who am I currently as a parent?
- Do I like the way I feel when I'm parenting?
- Do I feel consistent/grounded/like there is a clear through-line?
- How would someone else describe my parenting style if they saw it?
- Does my parenting identity rely on my child, or my own actions?
As always, if you feel comfy, please do tell us all about your thoughts in the WhatsApp Community!
Week 2
Hello Collective!
I know, I know. It's January and you're still coming back to life and you kinda sorta want me to leave you alone but also you're paying for this membership and you want me to be gently pushing you.
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But I chose an intense freaking topic to kick off the year. How dare I!
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But, I did it for a reason.
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Once you do this work, the rest will fall in line much easier. Getting grounded in who you are as a parent will give you some bumpers in your lane for the next rounds of challenges.
And, I know you're ready for this! So let's keep pushing forward.
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Focus: What's working
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The focus this week is on what's working right now. Remember, this isn't just about what parenting tactics are working right now, this is about what parts of your parenting identity are currently serving you.
Weekly Challenge:
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Think about your own internal processes, your tendencies, your values, your behavior patterns. What are the things that feel supportive, grounding, aligned?
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As always, please feel free to share as much or as little as you feel inspired to in our WhatsApp Community!
Week 3
Focus: What's not working
What no longer needs to be part of my parenting identity?
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This week is about noticing what you’re still carrying that isn’t actually serving you, or your kids. Yes, it's an obvious progression from last week, and that's the point. Now that you know what is working, it will be so much easier to see what isn't. You might have even noticed it already.
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Consider:
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Old rules, scripts, or expectations you’ve outgrown
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Parenting habits rooted in fear, people-pleasing, or survival
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Versions of yourself you’re maintaining out of obligation, not alignment
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Weekly Challenge:
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Use the following prompts to discover what you can let go of:
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What am I holding onto because I think I should?
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What could I loosen, simplify, or fully release?
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Who might I be as a parent if I spent less time proving and more time trusting?
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If you're ready to share, pop into our WhatsApp Community!
Week 4
Focus: What you will carry with you
Hello Collective! The first month of the new year is nearly done, and I can't decide if I'm ready?? Not because I want to hold on to the past, but because I feel like I finally figured out how to slow down and be present in the moment, and now I'm ready to savor them all!​
And that's sort of what I want your challenge to be about this week. Not exactly slowing down and savoring the moment (if I ever give you that advice, you know I've been hacked!), but the intentionality of it all.
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You've spent the last 3 weeks figuring out your parent identity, now the focus is on what you will carry with you over time.
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Weekly Challenge:
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Think long-term -- which to be fair in parenting can literally be later today, or 10 years from now -- who you are with your child when they are 3 is different than who you will be when they are 13, but some core pieces will be the same. This week is about figuring out those core pieces of your parenting identity.
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I won't leave you empty handed! Here are some guiding prompts to get you rolling:
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-When my kids are grown, how do I hope they describe me?
-What do I want them to know I cared about?
-What do I want them to feel when they think of our relationship?
-What’s one value or quality I want to practice carrying forward now?
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If you feel like sharing, pop into our WhatsApp Community!​​​