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This month, we’re exploring the theme of transitions—because so much of daily life is moving from one thing to the next.
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Week 1
Focus: How to roll out a transition
The dreaded transition!
Stop, clean up, put that away, wash your hands, get your shoes on!
On any given day, your child goes through dozens of transitions. That's an exhausting series of tasks! So, naturally, sometimes your kiddo is gonna hit the wall and pick a few to rail against to try to get back some autonomy.
Weekly Challenge:
Let's start with observing our own behavior. We're going to take the week to notice how we are rolling out transitions.
See if you can gather data on some of the following:
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How many demands/instructions you give during a transition
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What's your tone, timing, pace?
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How much information does your kiddo have for the transition?
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How often do transitions become power struggles?
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Are there any transitions you've given up on or abandoned?
Can't wait to hear your observations in our WhatsApp Community!
Week 2
Focus: Refusals
So, you've rolled out the transition. You paid attention to the data, and you've learned what works, what doesn't, and you know the best way to alert your child that a transition is imminent.
.... and then you get the dreaded, "No!"
Now what?? Bribery? Begging? Force?
Nah, if you're here, you don't want to use those rusty old tools! You want something that works for you and your child, honors everyone's autonomy, and holds the line.
Weekly Challenge:
Take inventory of the tools in your toolbox for dealing with your child's refusals. Examine them with a microscope:
- What tool do you reach for most often? Why?
- Do your tools work?
- How comfortable are you with these tools?
- Does your child understand the tool you're using? How do you know?
Can't wait to hear your answers!
Week 3
Focus: Dawdling + Not Listening
You might be saying, "Ok Emry, I get the importance of transitions. But like, most of the time my kids do pretty ok. I don't think about it too much."
That's great!
But what if they could be better? What if you had a shorthand with your kids that allowed everyone to know what was expected of them and when? What if you could track the data and learn how to curb an issue before it becomes an issue?
This week, we're going to look at the "simple stuff" - the dawdling and the not listening, and what you can do about it.
Weekly Challenge:
When your kids move slowly, get distracted, or seem to ignore instructions, what do you do?
This week, I want you to pay special attention to those moments. See if you can come back with some solid data about what works in those "mildly annoying" moments, and what really doesn't.
Emry's tip: Look for ways to streamline and automate systems, rather than relying on your verbal cues!